I’m sitting here today writing this blog on my husband’s laptop, slowly getting used to the way the keys feel. In the background my usual laptop is humming away, busily trying to recover all my folders and all of my work that’s been lost in an upgrade. Backups! I hear people say! Yes, well, that’s a long story which I won’t go into. The upshot is that I’ve just about lost everything that I’ve worked on for the past few years, all of it.
The irony is not lost on me. After all, I have been proclaiming the wonderful virtues of Marie Kondo’s de-cluttering method. The Universe obviously thought I needed a little extra push!
When I realised what had happened, my reaction I’m sorry to say, was not good. Being the Technical Support Person in our household meant my husband got the full force of my anger and frustration. After he left for work with his ears no doubt ringing, I burst into tears (a normal and essential Highly Sensitive reaction), and then sent my sister an SOS message. I have two wonderful sisters, both very talented and successful in what they do, but it’s my eldest sister that I instinctively turn to when I feel that I’m having any sort of emotional crisis. She has an immense empathy and wisdom that I trust implicitly, and sometimes, even though I may know the answers deep down within myself, I just need to talk things through with her so that they can surface.
Yesterday, after talking to my sister, I took myself out for a long walk in the sunshine. This is something I’d been meaning to do for ages but hadn’t made the time for, convincing myself I was too busy with work. Now, I know not everyone believes in a Universal power, but I do, and this for me was such a clear sign that if I didn’t do all the things I’ve been telling myself I needed to do for ages, something would happen to MAKE me do them. And it may not always be in the subtlest or most convenient of ways!
Now, a day on from my Laptop Crisis, I’ve had the time to work through my various emotions. Quite apart from forcing me to get out of the house and do some exercise, and thinking about what I actually need to recreate work-wise, I’ve realised just how grateful I am for the people I have around me. I’m thankful for my strong and tolerant husband who is able to stand there like a rock in the face of my ranting and raving, and still come back with solutions. And I’m so thankful for my wonderful sister who really listens, reminds me to breathe and always has such wise words of wisdom.
The people around us who form our support network are so important to our sanity and well-being. When I started out on the Highly Sensitive journey, it was my friend Nicole that I turned to when I felt overwhelmed by my daughter’s behaviour. It was Nicole that pointed me to Elaine Aron’s book as she had read it to understand her son, and it really helped to talk to her about what was going on for us as we had a common language.
Who do you turn to when you have your moments of crisis? Do you have a support network that helps you work through your challenging times?
If you don’t already have a support network and need to be around people who share a common language to you, look for groups that meet in your local area, or consider joining one of the many on Facebook if you’re happy going down the virtual route.
It’s because we recognise the importance of talking to people that share our experiences and frustrations, that Nicole and I will be hosting a regular Drop-In Coffee Morning in the Hampshire area for parents and carers of Highly Sensitive Children. You can find details of this here: http://www.naturallyhsp.com/how-we-can-help/coffee-mornings/.
Come along and become part of our mutual support network (and I’ll do my best not to bore you with my Laptop dilemmas)!